secretary clinton and i have old hair
We may share an attitude too.
Oh, and I call her Secretary Clinton or Mrs. Clinton because I think referring to her as “Hillary” (or her husband as “Bill,” or the President as “Barack,” etc.) could be construed to mean we are first-name-basis close friends. She may be my hero, but she is not my lunch buddy.
08.16.2012
Posted in: human beans, what i'm thinking
Tags: adobe soup, age appropriate haircut, aging, bill clinton, candace mann, face lift, hair and makeup, hillary clinton, neck issues, older women, optical illusions, plastic surgery, ponytails, president clinton, saggy skin, secretary clinton, secretary of state
What people are saying: 32 Comments
Posted in: human beans, what i'm thinking
Tags: adobe soup, age appropriate haircut, aging, bill clinton, candace mann, face lift, hair and makeup, hillary clinton, neck issues, older women, optical illusions, plastic surgery, ponytails, president clinton, saggy skin, secretary clinton, secretary of state
What people are saying: 32 Comments
08.16.2012 - 4:49 pm
Damn it! I’ve considered that surgery. The Ellen Clan is full of these hooded, fatty eyelids. Thanks for bursting my bubble.
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 5:02 pm
fat eyelids and pink skin – we’re twins on those counts.
besides, your eyes are beautiful.
08.16.2012 - 5:14 pm
Your eyes are so green.. Ha kidding ya.
I was focused on this because I have had the same thoughts, who ever asked her husband about his hair? or his suits? She has done a magnificent job amidst the harshest criticism. I am dealing with aging not as well yet as some of the physical parts of turning 50 are really hard I am finding. Please will someone not tell me to smile, cut caffiene and exercise my way through the physical changes that occur when you lost hormones?
It’s a real thing with real symptoms, if it were men it would be cured by now. But that is neither here nor there. A real support of each other would be a great start. Dropping the expectations that are unreal.
I still have my long curly hair, I am not going short as people expect, until I am ready to say it’s not me anymore.. following your lead Femme
thanks for this.
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 5:40 pm
yay, rita!! do whatever you want with your hair and your face!! it *is* hard to get through those first years with everything changing – at once, it seems, and so fast – so you have to do whatever you can figure out that makes you feel better while you slog along. it *does* get better, i promise. long curly hair is beautiful! xoxo
08.16.2012 - 5:35 pm
I love seeing you on camera. I cringe seeing me on camera. What a sticky topic…we care how we look, we feel better when we (feel that) we are taking care of ourselves, including/especially in the “looks” department…yet this tipping point always sticks its ugly nose up into the picture. The focus, more on women, as you say, as we know.The fact that women are harder on other women. Gawd, my default setting goes back to “The Beauty Myth” by Naomi Wolf. We are so hard on ourselves because we still can’t crack that ceiling! (Love your crack about Paula Dean–if she could cook !
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 5:44 pm
i showed my granddaughter that picture on my desk behind me in the video. it was taken on our wedding day, almost 25 years ago. i said, pointing at the man, “Simone, do you know who that is?”
she said “papa mot.”
i said: “do you think he still looks like that?”
she said: “yes.”
i said (foolishly): “how about me? do you think i look like that?”
she said: (not hesitating for a nanosecond) “no.”
:: ::
08.16.2012 - 5:38 pm
my smiley faces are appearing in places that I didn’t intend. Is the cursor f**king with me?
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 5:41 pm
i think there’s a wordpress trick. it does it to everyone. you have to put it on a separate line if you mean for it go at the end of a sentence. just hit return and then do it.
and if not, eff it. let it show up where/ev.
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 5:42 pm
SEE!!???
sharon Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 6:28 pm
thanks for the tip, and the typo correction
and the chance to practice my smiley face again.
BTW I’ve had the same hair for 15 years. Good? Bad? Who cares? I know I like to yank it up in a ponytail when it’s hot. I don’t fuss. It’s nobody’s bizness but my own.
08.16.2012 - 5:52 pm
What’s wrong with Secretary Clinton’s hair? I LUVS HER!!
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 6:00 pm
she has great hair. and a great hairdo. a bunch of dopes have been giving her grief because women “her age” shouldn’t have long hair. pfffffft.
08.16.2012 - 6:47 pm
I remember your first film deal. I listened to this one and I do have a relevant snip to share.
I was minding my own beeswax when I ran into my sister-in-law, my older brother’s wife, and could not avoid her. It has been seven years or so. Her first comment? “I didn’t know it was you because you’ve lost all your hair.” Frankly, I hadn’t really noticed. I haven’t lost all my hair, just some. I took a glance when I got home and all was okay. God what a bitch she is…
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 7:43 pm
i *love* your story. glad your hair was still there when you got home – fixed her, that cranky woman! (i do have to laugh, though, that you had to *go look*, blackie.) xo
08.16.2012 - 7:02 pm
Candy,
Jack accuses me of using that old hippie word, “man” a lot. But in your case it works, “Mann, I can’t get the video to work here either.” Now, over to YouTube.
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 7:44 pm
damn! let me know if it works on youtube. i use chrome and it’s fine. what’s your browser?
08.16.2012 - 7:27 pm
OMG!!! i love that you’re video blogging!
and for the record, i have totally age inappropriate hair,
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 7:44 pm
EXCELLENT! we are (or should be) all hair rebels!!
08.16.2012 - 9:41 pm
Oh Candace – I loved this and I love you!
candace Reply:
August 16th, 2012 at 10:46 pm
back at you, seattle pal. xo
08.16.2012 - 11:34 pm
Loved this Femme. There is no way they would have asked an important political male that. grrrr
Personally, I’ve got hair down to my butt in my 40s and will probably never get it cut fashionably again. It’s just not worth the effort, and it looks so pretty to me long. I hope you grow yours out to decent ponytail length and love it.
(the video works great on You Tube)
candace Reply:
August 17th, 2012 at 7:41 am
thanks for making the trek over here, julie, and on to youtube just to watch my movie. i didn’t know your hair was *that* long! i bet it does look pretty. we’re going to be ponytail friends someday.
08.17.2012 - 7:30 am
Candace this is just great,
Since no one asked, I am wearing t-shirt by Old Navy and shorts by Target. Gym shoes by New Balance.
candace Reply:
August 17th, 2012 at 7:43 am
ah, but what does your hair look like under that baseball cap, roger? hmmm? thanks for hanging on, guy. you’re a great pal, even if i am jealous of you getting to show jeff howe and his daughter all over chicago without me.
08.17.2012 - 10:04 am
It’s just how you say it ~ truth can’t hide.
You will be doing that ponytail a favor when you rock it. Someone’s got to, after all.
clink, clink!
candace Reply:
August 17th, 2012 at 12:09 pm
clink clink, girlie. thank you!
08.17.2012 - 4:05 pm
Great to see a video blog of you. I agree with most of your observations, and remember when at Beauty School we were taught about “age appropriate hair”. After a hair obsession from the age of 12 until I finally got a short cut that was easy (maybe 10 years or so ago) I spent a good 45 min. a day on making my hair look good. After some life altering changes I decided I was wasting 40 minutes of even day worrying about if I had it right and as the story goes here I am happily short. I have gone from blonde to brunette…but at least it is a non chemical process and one of these days I’ll let my grey out!
I think of eyelid surgery as a tune-up. Smile.
candace Reply:
August 18th, 2012 at 6:26 pm
you’re so pretty, sheila, that it wouldn’t matter what you did. thanks for coming over.
08.18.2012 - 12:03 am
You rock, girl! No matter what anyone tries to tell us, we FINE as we are!
candace Reply:
August 18th, 2012 at 8:42 pm
We surely are, Drema.
08.18.2012 - 3:45 pm
I actually never knew there was such a thing as “age-appropriate hair”. I know, I know – I’m a guy and we don’t really care about that stuff, right?
Well, two short stories for you. First, my wife was friends with a family of young men – I believe there were 5 boys and possibly a couple of girls in there somewhere – who all had the genetic fortune of having solid heads of grey hair by the time they were 20. They just wore their heritage like a badge. I mean, what else can you do?
Second – you’ve met me in person. Up until I was around 29, I had a full head of hair. I recall my barber telling me at one point, “Bill, you’re gonna have to forgo the long-haired hippie look at some point because you’re starting to thin out on top. You’ll just wind up looking like Gallagher if you don’t.”
Now at the tender age of 51, I look like my father – mostly bald, crow’s feet all around my eyes and mouth. My kids have, over the years, asked me if I’ve considered the Hair Club. I just laugh.
For me, it’s not important. I’ve never considered coloring my grey, never considered implants, or any of that stuff. This is me. If someone can’t accept me as I am, then I don’t need their acceptance.
I know it’s different for women – and it kills me that it is. It shouldn’t be. We should be comfortable in our age and our physical appearance because there’s woefully little we can do (short of artificial means, that is) to alter it.
WHEW! Sorry, I think that comment was longer than your video.
But I’ll end it with, LOOKING GOOD!!!!
Hope to see you again soon.
candace Reply:
August 18th, 2012 at 8:45 pm
Getting comfortable isn’t such a comfortable process and it takes far, far too long. But when you finally get there, it’s a relief. Thanks for the read, old friend.